Life is More Than an Orgasm

I knew this title would grab some attention. Yes, it’s direct and to the point, however, this article is not meant to be sexually explicit nor pornographic. On the contrary, my hope is to open our eyes to see that “life is more.”

If you look at society through its media, such as television, movies, magazines, books, internet and advertising, it would seem that the “Big O” is the ultimate dream to attain in life. Obviously, it’s bigger than the “American Dream” because media world-wide implies that the “Big O” is what you should live your entire life pursuing.

Have you ever pursued the “Big O” in search of happiness only to find it brought destruction instead? Happiness – now that’s an interesting word in itself! Maybe pleasure would be a better word? Maybe not? Or, are we just confused? What is happiness and pleasure? Is either really attainable? How many people do we know who are actually happy? Is ultimate pleasure merely defined as “about a minute long?”

The “Big O” must be the answer! Just look at the success of its marketing. The billions and billions of dollars that are made through its businesses, services, and products is astounding! Doesn’t financial and worldwide success dictate its truth? Isn’t it the world’s oldest business? Has it ever failed in a bad economy?

On the surface it is presented like a fireworks display on the fourth of July, a cruise to the Bahamas, or sipping a pina colada on a beach in Hawaii. You have arrived! It’s like being the richest person in the world. Carrying your $3,000.00 Louis Vuitton handbag or smoking your $750.00 Gurkha’s premier cigar – life doesn’t get any better!

But, beyond the surface, what has this goal in life brought us? Abortion, STD’s, divorce, single mothers, teen pregnancies, fatherless children, rape, perversion, adultery, fornication, homosexuality, sex trafficking, pedophilia, pornography, prostitution, and so on. Hmmm… is the “Big O” really life’s ultimate goal?

Well, if it’s not the “Big O”, it’s got to be money! No? How about fame? No? Is it health? Just what is true happiness? What is true pleasure? Like Pilot asked Jesus “What is truth?” (John 18:38).

If the “Big O” is life’s ultimate experience, then why does it also cause such destruction? If this is happiness and pleasure at its best, then what happens to someone who has an accident and is paralyzed from the waist down? Is life over? If your spouse cannot perform due to sickness or disease, is that a justifiable excuse for divorce? Pat Robertson recently declared that Alzheimer’s would qualify as a reason to divorce because the spouse is mentally dead. Follow through with that reasoning and you will end up declaring “anybody who can’t function fully to please their spouse” is fair ground for divorce. Where is covenant and commitment in that?

What is truth? Truth is, the “Big O” has its place. God created it to be enjoyed here on earth with a special purpose and guidelines. This article is not about that though. Rather, I want to point out that, unknown to many, there is much more to life than any “Big O.”

I believe in heaven we will not have “intimate physical relationships” as we know them here on earth. We will not be pro-creating either. As a matter of fact, the Bible says that we will be as angels in heaven.

Luke 20:34–36
34 Jesus answered and said to them, “The sons of this age marry and are given in marriage.
35 But those who are counted worthy to attain that age, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry nor are given in marriage;
36 nor can they die anymore, for they are equal to the angels and are sons of God, being sons of the resurrection.

Is there marriage in heaven? Yes, however, we will attend the marriage supper of the Lamb and we will be the “bride of Christ!” How do we wrap our little minds around that? It’s obvious our definition of intimacy will need to be updated when we get to heaven. I have a better idea. Why don’t we begin to look into this now, so when we get there we won’t be completely shocked?

We need to stop looking down and start looking up! There is more to life than the “Big O,” fame, wealth, and the like. Life… hmmm… if I remember correctly 32 years ago I was searching for happiness and could not find it. I tried drugs, alcohol, girls, music, fame, and money. Life stunk. Joy and happiness were nowhere in sight. On top of everything, my “searching” brought me more than misery and disillusionment. It brought me an incurable STD! Drugs, alcohol, and girls made it worse, and money and fame was a far gone dream. I even tried the occult through automatic handwriting and Transcendental Meditation (religiously) for several years and they brought no relief.

But one day a friend said to me, “What you need is Jesus!” Somehow I knew he was right, but I had no idea who Jesus was. A few years later, I found Him at church on Sunday, February 11, 1979. I gave my life to Jesus, and now 32 years later it has been the greatest journey. Not without trial and situation, but definitely with inner joy, happiness, thanksgiving, and a bright future! A very bright future! A few months later at a Bible study a few friends laid hands on me and – despite my embarrassment and feeling of shame — I was completely healed of that disease!

Jesus said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life” (John 14:6). Got life? I do! And everyday seems to get even “lifier!” I made that word up, but I believe you know what I am talking about.

I’ll say it again – I believe we need to stop looking down and start looking up! God’s Got a Better Way! The intimacy of the world is not even close to what heaven will be like. As a matter of fact, it’s the bottom of the barrel. It’s on the same level as animals. However, God created us in His image. If we seek His face we can learn about this “New Life!”

Romans 6:4
Therefore we were buried with Him through baptism into death, that just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, even so we also should walk in newness of life.

Newness of Life! The “Big O,” drugs, alcohol, girls, (or men), money, fame, or “Newness of Life.” Which is best? What should be our goal? How do we get there?

The best advice I can give you is to read the book of John. Twenty-one chapters, one chapter a day, for twenty-one days. Read it with sincerity and let God lead you to real life, real truth, and real happiness. You will never be the same. John uses the word “love, loves, loved” fifty-seven times in thirty-nine verses. Love has something to do with it! It all starts with how God loves you. Then, how you love yourself. Then, how you love others!

This “Newness of Life” is not just for the sweet bye and bye one day in heaven. It’s real, it’s a fact, and it’s available for our lives here and now on the earth. It’s the real thing. It’s authentic. It’s life changing.

You see, God’s Got a Better Way! For all of us! He loves us so much that He gave His only begotten Son that we might not perish but have everlasting life. He sent his Son that the world might be saved (John 3:16-17). For more information on G.G.B.W. “Gods Got a Better Way,” go to and follow through a teaching on how the Ten Commandments relate to us today.

Also go to for information for youth on dating, STD’s, and how to make a covenant with the Lord to remain abstinent until married.

Here are two more links to follow to receive Christ as your Lord and Savior:, and

There’s “way” more to life!


Pastor Jim Langlois is the Senior Pastor of The Master’s House, President of MKEA (The Master’s Kids Evangelistic Association), and an Area Director for ICFM (International Convention of Faith Ministries) You can follow him at docinthehouse, on Twitter at jimlanglois, and on Facebook at jim.langlois. His most recent books are “Is it Okay to Pray in Tongues in Church?” and “Will the Real God Please Stand Up!” Both are available at and


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